How to Prevent an Abuser From Reaching Out Over the Holidays
Here are some things you can do to try and prevent an abuser from contacting you during the holiday season - and all year round.
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Posts written by Dr. Jem Tosh and Dr. Lucy Thompson.
Dr. Jem Tosh
- Nov 30, 2021
- 5 min
The Trauma of Not Being Believed
I reflect on a recent therapeutic experience of not being believed and the impact of gender 'norms' when working with survivors of abuse.
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Dr. Jem Tosh
- Sep 1, 2021
- 14 min
Heavy Metal and Healing Trauma \m/
A blog post about Woodstock '99, nu-metal, misogyny, sexual abuse, KoRn's infamous song 'Daddy', and how heavy metal can be healing.
216 views
Dr. Lucy Thompson
- Jul 28, 2021
- 4 min
Understanding Institutional Trauma
I define Institutional Trauma and respond to the lack of engagement with feminist psychology regarding the concept.
712 views
Dr. Jem Tosh
- Dec 15, 2020
- 5 min
Handling the Holidays: Resources on Chosen Family
I talk about being apart from family on the holidays and the importance of chosen family for queer folks.
101 views
Dr. Jem Tosh
- May 19, 2020
- 5 min
Being a Queer and Nonbinary Survivor in Psychology
I reflect on my own experiences of being a survivor of sexual abuse and my career in psychology in a new book chapter.
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Dr. Jem Tosh
- May 17, 2020
- 4 min
How Silence Can Show Up in Abuse
In this post I talk about the role silence plays in abuse, from the silent treatment to silent bystanders.
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Dr. Jem Tosh
- May 17, 2020
- 5 min
'Your Silence Will Not Protect You'
On the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biophobia, I reflect on my own coming out experiences and silence.
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Dr. Jem Tosh
- Mar 31, 2020
- 4 min
Feeling Triggered: COVID-19 and Abuse Survivors
I reflect on the impact COVID-19 can have on abuse survivors, such as isolation and triggering experiences like panic buying.
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Dr. Jem Tosh
- May 10, 2018
- 3 min
5 Places to Go For Self-Care in Vancouver, BC
A reflection on different kinds of spaces in cities where trauma survivors can go when feeling overwhelmed.
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Dr. Jem Tosh
- Nov 30, 2016
- 6 min
You Can't Copy and Paste my Pain
I respond to those 'copy and paste' posts about su*cide prevention and offer alternatives for helping survivors of abuse.
213 views
Dr. Jem Tosh
- Nov 7, 2016
- 5 min
How to Heal the Parts That Don't Speak
I talk about some of the ways we can heal trauma for when talking therapy isn't enough.
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